The Moment of Silence

Here, in Malaysia, when one mentions he/she's been through a divorce, there will be an awkward moment of silence.

Silence when people indulge themselves in it, secretly feel sorry for that person and wonder how passionate love makes a difference and pushes people into getting married.

Till the divorcee declares him/herself that he/she is okay with it, trying and wanting to wipe away the stupid sympathy look on the others' face.

It's like, how people think, how their life is so over; how they never will be able to find another companion; how their future is forever wrong and how they're going to die alone.

Then they tell you how sorry they are for asking you that question because they "don't know".

Then they give you two gentle taps on your shoulder, telling you the world is still spinning.

Then they smile at you, telling you you'll find love real soon like you're so empty every day though you know you're dating the hottest guy in this world.

Then they tell you a lot of people at your age are divorced too.

How amusing.

Why is it, that when people hear one's divorced, they thought the couple got married because they were hot for each other and decided they have to "be married" to celebrate this love??

Especially if you're married to a Caucasian, ahh, no wonder you're divorced!

Or perhaps, if you're pregnant at a very young age, ahh, no wonder you're divorced, too.

... and when people find out about your new romance after the failed marriage, well, your loved one becomes the toyboy and you're doomed to fail forever.

Really?? Is that the best the world's brain or creativity can do?

We all have our rights to marry and divorce anyone, hot passionate love isn't always the reason why people get married.

Isn't the world a much better place if you tell someone you're divorced, that person opens up his/her eyes and says "Ah, me too! Oh, my ex-husband was such a jerk, I am sure yours too!"

I mean, what are the odds?

So, when you're in your moment of silence, feeling sorry, thinking if only they kept their head clear in the beginning they wouldn't be so empty and lonely now, letting your ignorance take over, remember this.

Perhaps a divorce is the best thing a marriage brings.